I recently listened to Eckhart Tolle and Oprah talk about leaving a situation or relationship, and how the ego, and or pain body, wants to cling to something and someone rather than allowing them or it to leave our lives, because the ego/mind wants the known, it wants permanence.

Oprah said some things I have shared with clients for years, about how we do know we have made the correct decision in leaving; or allowing someone else to go…Oprah said you get a sense of peace with the decision, and I agree, even when the choice is tough. Oprah also said something that I have found to be true, which is, you may have peace with the decision and feel sad too. Grieving a life situation, job or relationship that you once thought was going to be a part of your future, which you realize is not, is natural. More than that, it is spiritual, and wise. Far too many people sever, shove, or repress feelings, because they can not identify them as a part of our total human experience.
The art is in defining a feeling, being with it, yet not becoming identified as it. “I am sad” gets replaced with “I feel sadness”. You remain the “witness” allowing the experience to just be, because life (which you are), just allows, knowing it is permanent, constant and stable. It is the events that play upon it’s (life’s)  screen that are impermanent.

We are being reminded by Eckhart repeatedly about the power of living in the NOW, and in learning to live in an awakened state. We already know nothing is permanent in the physical dimension and therefore appreciating each moment and each form in its present state becomes a daily spiritual practice.

Thank God I got divorced may seem wrong to say initially but for most people that very statement becomes true after the initial grief and loss is processed and integrated. The truth is that leaving a marriage that has gone stale, is non fulfilling or has simply “died,” can be a real blessing. Divorce is not the end of your life, it is often a beginning towards a life more suited to who you have become.

When we complete a committed relationship or marriage we are given the chance to take stock of our lives, and to reclaim ourselves in a new way, and to re-evaluate “shelved” desires and dreams. We are also able to see where we have fallen prey to co-dependency, and irresponsibility. We get to become aware of beliefs we once held and see if they still seem true. We get to examine friendships we have allowed to wane. We reclaim the important roles we have numbed out to, such as mom, dad, daughter, son, sister and brother. In short, we get cracked open, revealing both our shadow and our light, our strengths and our fears, and stand face to face with the terror of not knowing what our future will now hold.

In addition to facing ourselves honestly, we face an awesome opportunity to begin New and to lead an ever increasingly powerful life.

Recently, I was invited to be a contributing author for a new book series, entitled Thank God I … The series and the many short story titles such as mine, Thank God I …Got A Divorce, is aimed towards reminding us that all of our experiences are actually “gifts” if we can view them through a new perspective. In short, we see and experience things very differently if we see that every experience has both positives and negatives in them.

As a divorce specialist I know first hand that the initial reaction to the prospect of divorce is un-nerving to say the least, but after we begin to look with BOTH eyes wide open we soon see that with every perceived loss there is a gain, and with every ending a new beginning too!

It is always good news to read about couples that choose to use mediators in the divorce process.  As a Registered Family Mediator I see the benefits and the relief to couples in my office over and over again.  Some of the top benefits are listed here for you.

• Save you time and money

• Helps you to continue communication with your soon to be ex

• Provides a neutral third party to help you through decisions you may not agree on

I am providing you an article I ran across this morning, which inspired the good divorce news of the day!

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Wayne Brady’s divorce finalized after four years of separation at 23:41 on April 16, 2008, EDT. By THE ASSOCIATED PRESS LOS ANGELES - Wayne Brady is officially single again.The 35-year-old comedian has been living separately from his wife, Mandie, for four years, but the couple’s divorce was just finalized this week.According to papers filed Monday in Los Angeles Superior Court, the pair married in April 1999 and officially separated in April 2006, citing irreconcilable differences. They have one daughter: 5-year-old Maile Brady. “Mandie is my best friend. We still love each other and we are raising our beautiful daughter Maile together as a team,” Brady said in a statement issued by his publicist. The couple used a mediator to arrive at a final divorce settlement. Details about their child custody, child support and property-division arrangements were not made public. Brady recently guest-starred on TV’s “Everybody Hates Chris” and “How I Met Your Mother.” ©The Canadian Press, 2008

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So Eckhart and Oprah are now “friends” and together they are discussing, ego, the pain body, consciousness, and awareness. Through doing this huge web class they are creating big changes, for hundreds and thousands of people, are you one of them? I read Eckhart’s book ,) A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose and really felt that it is one of the most simplified and comprehensive presentations of the teaching offered in, A Course in Miracles.
 
 I have family members reading A New Earth, and it is really inspiring them to be much more present, aware of the ego, mind movement, and is facilitating the power of allowing what it! I have often taught my students that we have become conditioned to
 “fight” what is because we are so addicted to our individual values, goals, and ideals. We want what we view as being “right” so that we can feel safe, superior, separate and “unique”. And in our unconsciousness moments (meaning when we are not present) when we go into “auto pilot” we innocently, allow the ego to rule our perceptions and reactions.
 
 The “Pain Body” as Eckhart puts it, is a wonderful term which identifies the part of the ego identity that loves to embrace the roles of victim and terrorist. And in its insatiable hunger to stay “alive,” it energetically continually seeks out reasons and justifications to be “fed”. If we are aware (present) and can observe it in action we immediately cause a shift, because in observing it, we immediately become the “witness” of the pain-body rather than subject to it.
 
 So in closing, I want to give three cheers, a huge hug, and my deepest gratitude to Oprah, Eckhart, and YOU, for reading and or participating in the book, The New Earth, the class or both, and in so doing, shift or rather leap into a more Authentic Self.

Words can not express how grateful I am for having the opportunity to “hang-out” with Deepak Chopra and Marianne Williamson for a week. These are two of my favorite spiritual leaders, who like me, are absolutely committed to help people awaken to their Real Selves, so that we have the opportunity to save the planet and our humanity from further suffering, and potential annihilation. Among these two incredible friends, I met and listened to the President of Cost Rica, Oscar Arias Sanchez and the absolutely inspiring, Nobel Peace prize recipient, Jamie Jaramillio. The overall take away message I came away with was, we do have the capacity as powerful beings, to change the course we have been heading towards. And we must individually find the courage and conviction to do whatever is needed to, “Be the Change We Want to See in the World!” Each of us does have a specific call within our soul and DNA to answer too, and the time is NOW, to listen and act upon that call. In order to shift global consciousness from an, “I” to a “WE” identification, and to leap to the next level of awareness which we are “coded” to do, each of us needs to look at what thoughts, attitudes and actions we are individually holding which contributes to the whole mind and earthly body that we share. Today we must each think and act responsibly and atone (undo) that which we hold within our belief systems, which stems from the belief in separation, scarcity and fear, and in so doing, restore our inheritance of wholeness, gratitude, and abundance. So, I invite you to join the
 
 Alliance for a New Humanity NOW, and enter with me, into a powerful community of souls who know and trust that we do have the capacity to remember our identities as expressions of God, (love) and therefore, do absolutely believe we can co-create, Heaven on Earth, as it is meant to be.

For me Easter 2008 was a season of profound change. It was a time of death, the allowing of what is… and rebirth. In fact, the truth is, that in death was rebirth already issuing forth. The resurrection pattern plays itself out deep within our psyche, and whether we are leaving a relationship, saying good-bye to loved ones, or allowing the illusory world of solid matter and its many forms to dissolve; this mystical Spirit releasing pattern has much to offer us in learning about living in the NOW. The reality is, that love and truth never leave, they dwell here now even in this very instant as forms seems to leave or disappear.

As we learn to surrender to, “that which was”, (temporal), we realize that it had a specific purpose, to serve towards our conscious evolution. The “form” therefore served us in a particular way, and if we look with appreciative “eyes” we see the gift it brought and can release the form with grace and gratitude.

 Ultimately, all things in form, are destined to dissolve, and ultimately the letting go can become a powerful lesson in love.  As we each learn to open up to something much more precious, formless and eternal—we open to Spirit and it’s purpose for our existence and lives.

In this moment I will remember that crucifixion is something we experience only if we are attached to any particular form, and resurrection occurs naturally when we are wise enough to allow the form to leave our lives gracefully. In knowing we too are in our essence, changeless, formless and eternal, we remember that we belong to the eternal, formless, and radiant, dimension of being, and therefore are raised “up”. I will choose NOW to dwell where life is truth, and love is the only reality. And from this awareness peace and appreciation for all that IS –then becomes effortless.

Alliance for a New Humanity

Awakening the planet is my number 1 value these days. On March 11, 12 and 13th I am scheduled to be in Costa Rica to meet with Deepak Chopra, author of Buddha: A Story of Enlightenment  and Marianne Williamson author of The Age of Miracles: Embracing the New Midlife. They will be among an amazing line up of speakers and attendees, with a single purpose. They like me wish to unite with that which is real, eternal and powerful within each other. We want to celebrate how we are already making changes towards a new earth and to explore what else can be done to co-create a experience on earth which is reflective of who we really are.

If enough of us chose love, which is like choosing light, the darkness disappears without an “attack” upon it. If enough of us look within to see and understand both our light (truth) and our shadow,(illusion) then the light of awareness dissolves the shadow too. And if enough of us realize that all outward expressions (separation, judgment, violence, anger, hate, and competition- etcetera…etcetera.) are the reflections of inward beliefs, and desires and we choose to believe in, we can begin to choose differently. Each of us has a mission and an address book to begin with. And remember, the true evaluator of how present and awake we are is revealed; by the way we treat the person that grates us most! Remember soul- by-soul, we can invite love, wholeness, unity and understanding, to change the world!